Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 1 Peter 3:1-6
Wives are called to be submissive to their husband. Now God has made it clear in His word that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. When a husband spends his life laying his life down for his family, serving his wife, and interceding for her daily, then a wife will desire to be submissive to her husband through the leading of the Holy Spirit.
We live in a culture where the concept of a wife being submissive to her husband would seem politically incorrect and just wrong. But that is the issue of the world and culture we live in. God’s kingdom is contradictory to this world and if we desire a marriage that honors the Lord then we need to live our lives according to His word.
A wife who is married to a man who does not serve the Lord will impact that man if her life is lived in obedience to the Holy Spirit. There are some who begin their marriage with two people who are unbelievers, then along the way if the wife comes to faith in Jesus Christ she finds herself in a difficult situation. But God can impact any situation that seems impossible and a woman who lives her life first for the Lord will have an impact on her husband whether she knows it or not.
A women’s beauty should never be the focus of her physical appearance. The world and its ways focuses on external beauty. Those who follow the ways of the world often dress like prostitutes trying to garner the attention of men. They use their sexuality to make and impact and fail to understand that they are just being used as a pawn of the enemy. Satan plays on the insecurities that exist within women and uses their fears to drive them to use their beauty for destructive purposes.
True beauty is found in the depths of a woman’s heart. When a woman has a deep, intimate relationship with Jesus Christ and her heart is fully given to Christ, her relationship with Christ will impact every area of her life. That includes her physical beauty. One of benefits of following Jesus Christ is that He gives life to our mortal bodies. The Lord can rejuvenate a person’s physical body and for women this can have a dramatic effect. Focus on beauty should never be on external physical beauty. As we seek first God’s kingdom and His righteousness, He will bring all things into order in our lives.
Peter gives the example of Sarah in the bible who was the wife of Abraham. God has given us many godly examples throughout the bible of women who have served the Lord with all their heart. When a woman commits her way unto the Lord, the Lord will move supernaturally in every area of their life.
Never sacrifice the plans and purposes God has for you for the empty attention of men. Satan will always try to use the fears that exist within people to manipulate them and push them to make decisions that are destructive for their lives. If we simply seek the Lord with our whole heart, the Lord will fulfill the plans and purposes He has for our lives by His grace and His power.