“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom.”
James 3:13 NKJV
Our conduct will reveal the depths of our hearts. If our actions don't align with our words we are simply deceiving ourselves. We are called to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit and do all things with wisdom. But it requires that we draw near to the Lord for strength. Because left to our own strength we will fail. But in Him we will be victorious.